The People that will hurt you the Most


The People that will hurt you the Most

I have just come to the realization that the people who will hurt you the most are your loved ones.

Do you know why?

The reason is because you love them without fail.

So when you speak to them and they yell back to you or do things that don’t tally with your views, you get angry, sad, disappointed or angry towards them.

I see this happen a lot: Fathers vs. Sons, Mothers vs. Daughters, Husbands vs. Wives, Brothers vs. Sisters, Workers vs. Co-Workers.

Sometimes, we take it to the extreme of refusing to talk them, fighting, separation and even divorce.

Whenever, you get to this point, stop and ask yourself these questions:

Did you have the prerogative to choose which family you were born into?
Did you have the prerogative to choose which siblings you would grow up with?
Did you have the prerogative to choose the people that you fell in love with?

As you answer these questions, you will realize that you didn’t really have much of a choice with the first two questions, but the last question gave you a choice to love, irrespective of the differences.

So you chose to love and that’s the reason why you shouldn’t get angry when the people you love the most hurt you.

Rather, search your heart and find out why you love them and never stop loving them.
Rather than exude anger, hate or disappointment, Love them relentlessly.

Because the only gift we can freely share with our fellow man is to love unconditionally.
They might be afraid that you don’t understand their view, or you don’t believe in them, but when you show them love, you immediately take away their fears and make them love you more.


So when you get angry or hurt with a loved remember that, “Perfect love casts out fear” 

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